In sax class last Wednesday, our teacher asked us to notice what happens when you become in tune with the other person. The observation was that the person trying to tune disappears.
I thought that this describes what it feels like to be in tune with someone you love. You disappear. Not like you're no longer there and they consume you, but you're no longer conscious of what you're trying to do. Everything becomes natural. Interesting, too, is the fact that you have to keep maintaining your breath---feeding the instrument to keep the sounds waves moving together. You have to listen carefully.
The other person disappears, too, when you take the lead, and ask them to hear you and move in sympathy. Sometimes, you don't know it, but you're the one holding them up---helping them tune to you.
It takes work. It takes perseverance, and a building up of strength. But in the end you make beautiful music.
